It might be surprising to hear me say this, but as someone who is actually more intellectual than fashion forward I’ve had times where both “pretty” and “pink” would have triggered me.

But, I mean, who doesn’t love pink?

Really, I do love the color pink. As someone whose weight always made her feel masculine, I’m not going to lie, pink was always my way to feel like a woman again. It always makes me feel happy.

But really pink triggers me…

3 years ago when I did my first big photoshoot for what became Not So Skinny Style School, I knew I wanted a pink dress. I knew my company was all about embracing the feminine so what a better color to use!?

{Oh, a pink tutu too!}

…Yet, in doing so, a whole lot of pink was released on my site. And somewhere along the way, I started to really hate it. From comments about it being feminine and girly. I started to get really annoyed by pink, which started to become the bane of my existence. 

Last fall we were looking over my site to prepare for a rebrand, and my designer Chelsey pointed out that we had 5 shades of pink on my homepage. I suddenly felt like I’d stepped into a young girl’s room.

The problem?

Here’s what I’ve come to believe… We’re told that pink is only ok when you’re a younger girl so pink starts to get associated with our youth and something to give up as an adult. As we get older, we take on more insecurity and stories from society and start to wear more blah colors and may even have judgments about pinks being for little girls.

Old school feminists have made us want to be considered equals and in doing so made many of us empowered women feel insecure about wearing pink. At least that’s what I think. Agree or disagree.

In the last several years, a lot has changed.

  • Hillary Clinton wore pink during the election (I think of her as one of those old school feminists that tried to blend in with the men ***cough**bad pant suits***cough***)
  • Men wear pink without question now

…and pink is a trend for spring! (Many items currently 40% off!!) 

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I think pink is an interesting color for so many women to wear.  We like it. But, it can also make us stand out, which can feel, well, lets just say it… a lot more visible!

I think many of us like it, it’s light and bright. It’s an instant color that’s a mood lift and not as intense as wearing, say, a power red color…but we’re still more visible in how we show up.  It can feel scary.

Hello people looking at you!

Know what I’ve learned? They mostly stare when they like something and I find most people don’t give compliments any more. They’re likely not thinking you look fat in your pink dress…and if they do, it is ultimately their issue, not yours.

I hope you will stand up with me and allow yourself to be seen for the beautiful woman you are and try out some of the pink looks I’ve scoured for you on the internet below.

Pink is the embodiment of the feminine divine. According to, people who wear pink have found themselves, “Pink is your individual Spirit- sovereignty, dignity and self-reliance.”

Now more than ever we need to stand up and be ourselves. When we allow ourselves to shine, we give others the permission to shine too.

Like the most giving mothers, let’s lift each other up, mother ourselves and let ourselves be seen in all of our pink glory.

Sharing is caring: I’d love to hear from you. How do you REALLY feel about pink?

Pretty in Pink Makeup

Your style isn’t complete without your hair and makeup bringing it all together. Take a couple minutes and infuse your look with pink cosmetics!

Beauty Counter Pink Plumping Collection Pink Set:


Cream Blush:


Petal Lip Sheer:


Lip Gloss: Peony (or Dahlia)

Pretty in Pink Bling:

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STYLE NOTE: Of course, wear a shade of pink based on what works for you. And, if you don’t know your style Essence or where to start with your style, take my Style Archetype Quiz to help you get started.


PS. My Interview in the Dressing with Style Interview Series goes LIVE Today!! Click here to get signed up and get access! I’m excited to share my insights on how to dress with impact without spending a fortune!